So let us dive into the plethora of threesomes that one can encounter, in no particular order:
-One devoted couple, with someone new to “spice things up”: This category could probably have some sub-categories as well, including “3rd wheel” or “center of attention”. The former happens when two people are really getting into it, and the other gets a little (or a lotta) left out. For example, one person in the couple invited a third to join, and the other half-heartedly agreed, and then half-asses it doing the threesome, or he gets totally ignored. (I’m using all male pronouns, but most of this can extend to straight couple, I imagine [I always forget to put myself in a straight persons perspective before I say stuff like that. See note below].) Or the devoted couple gets really into it, since this is old hat for them, and the invitee feels a little out of the loop. The “center of attention” category is one person is picked, intentionally or not, and the other two focus on him. Usually successful, especially if everyone is totally game. Takes the most amount of communication, especially between some couples, to make sure it does more good than harm.
-Three good friends: This is when no one is actually dating anyone, but you know each other really well, maybe even slept together in one combination or another. Again, there’s always the possibility of a “third wheel” but if we’re all friends here, its should be pretty balanced. Probably initiated by “This is so-and-so, and he’s good in the sack” “Oh yeah?” “Yes, my threesome skills, let me show you them” or something.
-Three strangers: Sober or not, three new friends decide to take it from the bar/alley/school library to the bedroom/alley/lockerroom. Everything is totally improvised, but the thrills of discovery and spontaneity are there. Or so I’ve heard…
[Note: So most of this probably DOESN'T apply to straight couples, since there's that whole different gender thing involved. With gays, there's no combos like "MMF" or "MFF" to worry about, which is a whole other ballgame to think about. Like MMF: Is it two straight males doing one chick, or everyone doing everyone? Too complicated for me...sorry straighties.]
Just some of the topics that Leah and I covered and now passing them on to you. Anyone have some good insight? Advice?
Sorry about the mini-break there, shit has a tendency to throw itself at the fan sometimes. Happy New Year kids! I’s excited.
obv anon for the sake of privacy but…
the one devoted with a spice it up friend is typical, but like you said requires a lot of communication/trust on the part of the couple so that it does more good than bad.
the other two may happen but the gender thing can really be an issue for some people. Best case scenario is that at least two members of the 3some are bi. mmf can be two straight dudes doing the chick and doing their best to pretend the other dude isn’t there, or one or both of the dudes can be into the fact that there’s another dude there (or you get the guy who gets off on seeing his girl having sex with another guy)
obv. it’s every straight guy’s dream for an MFF (well, most straight guys, that is) and it’s usually easier to make happen since female homosexuality isn’t as negatively stigmatized when it comes to being sexual.
(TL;DR) **basically it comes down to what everybody’s comfortable with.**
i’m a girl and i identify as straight because i’ve never been interested in dating/being in a relationship with girls. that said, i find girls hella sexy and love sexxin’ ‘em up because multiple orgasms are the shit.
so yeah, that’s about the long and short of it